“I Can Do Bad All By Myself” is a story about the power of love. April, the main character, is living a life less than what she deserves; and she is ok with that. She is in a relationship with a married man to keep from being committed. She would rather be by herself than take a chance to fall in love and have to suffer the pain of losing it. Sandino (Adam Rodrigez), the border who takes a room in her basement, comes along, and is not afraid to show vulnerability. He is strong and macho; yet sensitive and caring at the same time. At one point in the movie, when April found out her mother died alone on a bus, Sandino held her and when she asked why, he simply stated, because you needed to be held.
Can you think of a time in your life when you needed that: a human touch with no strings attached; but you felt you had no one to fit the bill? I know it is the “Christian thing” to say “Jesus is all I need”. But that is not God’s desire for us. We were created to not only have a relationship with Him; but also to have fellowship with one another. Unfortunately, we do not always want to obey the word. We would rather be alone, than appear before another human naked. We would rather hide our hurts; conceal the pain of broken promises; and disguise our wounds of despair. We would rather cover up who we really are – than reach out and let the Lord heal us. And contrary to popular belief, His preferred method is to use someone close by. My pastor always says “favor comes on two feet”. Meaning, God uses people. And that is absolutely true about healing those obscure, mutilated internal wounds inside of you.
Did you ever consider volunteering or visiting a loved one in a rest home may be the cure for your broken heart? What about helping out at the children’s hospital? The healing power of giving love is stronger than you think.
12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: that he lay down his life for his friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command you. (John 15:12-13)
So can you do bad all by yourself? Yes, when you take the lyrics to the title song to heart:
Since everybody knows what it is that I need to do.
Well do me a favor, let me worry bout me and you worry bout you.
I don’t need no one to put me down,
I’m on the ground, can’t get no lower.
And I don’t need no one to hang around and make me frown just makes me look older.
And I don’t need no one to black my eye and tell me lies
Don’t wanna cry over nobody else
No no no no I can do bad all by myself.”
But when we sacrifice ourselves, our wishes, and our preferences for a friend, we give the greatest of all gifts and prove our love beyond any doubt. And the hose that waters has to get wet. Simply put, the love you give has to come back.